humor,fun,baby-sitting
It seems that having a ready stable of baby-sitters is of paramount importance to the modern family. But even a family with a fat bank account will run into that awful situation….. reservations at that hot new restaurant, and a string of cancelling sitters.
John and Tracey V. have developed a fool-proof system for creating the emergency back up babysitter, and I’m going to share their secrets with you here, in this, my first blog entry. For the record, John and Tracey have three great kids… we’ll call them Jack -5, Scott -4 and Kate – 19 months.
Baiting the Hook
Step One – Find your Patsy. The system may be fool-proof, but it does require one fool. (Any unsuspecting single friend will do, but you need to find one with the right combination of common sense and gullibility) In John and Tracey’s case, this would be me.
Step Two: Insure your kids are cute, and train them to call your patsy “Uncle or Aunt Patsy” as frequently as possible with a cherubic smile on their faces.
Step Three: Break your friend in slowly. During visits at his place or yours, hand him which ever kid is acting most calmly and comment how good he is with children, and how much your kids really like him. Take digital pics of him with your kids…. send them via email… with cute captions leveraging that pseudo-uncle moniker!
Step Four: Over time, ask him to mind them for very brief periods … while you’re taking a shower, a short nap or a handling a phone call. Complement and thank him profusely.
Step Five – Show him some of the basics of diaper changing, but don’t let him try. Tell him “Uncles don’t change diapers… I’ll do it… it’s just great to have you here to play with the kids!”
Setting the Hook
Step one: Invent a simple babysitting emergency. Tracey recommends invently a special neighborhood 90 minute zoning meeting taking place next door. Call your patsy, ask for the favor, and mention how excited the kids are to see him.
Step Two: When Uncle Jay arrives, have dinner for the kids on the table, and outline his duties as simply watching them eat, playing with them afterward, and putting then to bed. Easy as reading a bed time story, right?
Step Three: As a fleeting aside, (best thrown over your shoulder as you walk out the door), mention that he ought to check Kate’s diaper before putting her to bed. Assure him that “Number One” is the only thing within the realm of possibility, given Kate’s particular daily digestive habits.
Step Four: Laugh hysterically (inside) when you return home in 90 minutes to find that Uncle Jay has learned how to change his first extremely sloppy diaper. Lament loudly that “You should have called me! I was right next door!” Tell him how sweet it is that he didn’t. Share the humor with your husband later.
Reeling him in
Now… use your next real epicurian emergency to land your full time emergency sitter. -
Remember our scene?? – the reservations at that hot, new restaurant, and no sitter to care for the clan?
1) Make the call - pour on the thank you’s, the gravy about the kids being excited, etc. etc.
2) Have Uncle Jay arrive a bit earlier. Expand the duties to include making dinner, cleaning the kitchen, playing with the kids, overseeing toy clean-up time, changing Kate’s diaper again (Number Two is all this kid knows!!!!) and top it off with a surprise responsibility….. bathroom assistance for an older child assumed to be toilet trained!
This is the best…. having never told him how, require him to learn on the spot how to wipe a 4 year-old’s bum, all while the 19 month old and the 5 year old look on, with the four of you crammed in to a small, and slightly malodorous bathroom.
Thank god for me, Jack (the five year old) was able to let me in on the secret that Scott needed help, (which explained why Scott had been yelling that he was in the bathroom for about 10 minutes!)
In another blog post, I may outline the ways in which a psuedo uncle can take his revenge… like:
1) Moving so slowly on the bed time prep that all three kids are still awake and acting caffienated when Mommy and Daddy return home!
2) Allowing the kids to have lots of sweets right before handing them back into their parents’ care!
3) Writing blog posts like these…
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